Re: [Mid] Peace on this morning, please?

Greetings--

> But what disturbs me most is Baldric's intolerant reply. Without the
>grace to forgive a man who's in an emotional state and let it be, what use
is
>to say there is chivalry here? Would not it be better to say "Yes, I hurt
>with you, we are all in pain, but good gentle, please think before you
post?"
>Is it not better to just move away from the topic, than fan the fires? We
>_all_ make mistakes, and sometimes let our emotions overflow, it is a small
>thing and not something unforgiveable.

I understand emotional overflows very, very well. Anger is one thing. Many
of us are still angry at Jafar's unexpected end, and it's easy to let that
overflow into other areas.

But we all need to live with the consequences of our anger. If you lash out
wildly at someone, it has consequences. It hurts people. I agree that it
is forgiveable, but would not necessarily call it a "small thing."

Baldric is a fine young man. I know that because I know him. This, more
than anything, is the danger of our forum--we don't all know each other.
Words which seem in character for those we know may seem harsh to those we
don't--which is a warning that we all must think before we post. Were we
having this conversation at an event, it is doubtful it would have ever
gotten to the level of insults, perceived or otherwise, because we would
have the benefit of facial expression, tone of voice, and so on.

Every time we write something--even more than if we say it--our words have
consequences. All of us need to understand that, and think about whether
those consequences are something we desire, because it's quite likely that
once we post, the consequences will go beyond our control. We need to
continue to talk with each other, not at each other; the former leads to
better understanding, the latter to flame wars.

Cheers--
Nicolaa de Bracton

From: "Susan Carroll-Clark" <sclark@chass.utoronto.ca>
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Received on Sat Jan 3 11:39:00 1998