Re: [Mid] Grief

M. Siobhan did say:
>Everyone expresses grief differently.
>
>Last year, three days after I got back from Pennsic (the year the
>gentleman hanged himself) one of my coworkers, her twin sister, and
>their mother were killed in an auto accident. I found out about it
>on the radio on my way to work and was the one to share it with my
>coworkers.
>
>They were African-Americans, and I'd never been to a funeral of
>that ethnic group. It was very different. Lots of "amen!" and "tell
>it like it is!" and very open displays of emotion, more than what
>many of us would be familiar with.
>
>I found it a bit unsettling, but I also realized that the diversity
>of the different groups in this country is part of what makes us so
>strong. I looked at it as a learning experience.
>
>Sometimes the very open display of emotion is preferable to the
>times when the feelings are kept inside and internalized. They can
>fester and manifest later in destructive and detrimental ways, and
>can deeply and profoundly affect one's psyche.

This is the background that I come from. The funeral is the place where
everyone lets go, lets it out and purges the grief. In my family, the
people who hide from their grief or internalize (like me, born and raised
in Canada where internalization is seemingly another facet of polite
behaviour.) are gently encouraged to let go.

V.
From: Rob Galbraith <valizan@pathcom.com>
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Received on Fri Dec 3 17:00:53 1999